tbh i’m not really feeling the “imagine that she were your mother/sister/daughter” approach to teaching men how to respect women because women have value and dignity as human beings completely independent of some kinship to a man. and lets not act like a whole array of misogyny abuse and disrespect doesn’t occur within familial relationships so…
Patricia Hill Collins
This quote is from her book Black Sexual Politics. This means conceptualizing Blackness itself outside of dehumanized notions shaped via White supremacy right off the bat, and all that she mentioned in this quote. To me it also means the space for gender fluidity has to be acknowledged as well.
Not one single hurtful thing ever got changed by someone grinning and bearing it.
Hurtful things changed because people have said ‘That hurts me. Stop.’
And every time you try to silence someone and tell them that they shouldn’t be hurt, shouldn’t be offended, shouldn’t choose this battle, that this isn’t important and that other things are more important - you are serving the hurtful rather than the hurt."